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Sex After 65
Will you Still have an Active Sex Life in your 60’s? Sex is a very important part of life for most people, and very natural as well. It seems that it is more of a big deal for younger individuals than those who are older. Maybe it is because they have learned what a relationship is all about by then, and sex is just a small portion of it. Still, it is important and something that you will want to still be a part of. One of the biggest problems though is that people aren’t comfortable with their bodies as they get older. It is true that things may not be where they used to be, and wrinkles may be in place. Yet if you are able to love your body for what it is, sex in your 60’s can still be very enjoyable. Some individuals around this age have been with the same partner for decades. They are very comfortable with them. They are still able to have a satisfying sexual relationship because they know what their partner finds enjoyable. It is never too late to start experimenting either! Others around this age group are with a new partner for a variety of reasons.
Not everyone finds that sex is that important when they are in their 60’s though. It is important for you and your partner to be able to communicate what your sexual needs and interests are. If you are both content with it only happening once in a while, that is fine. If you both would like it to take place regularly then that is fine too. Should you discover that your sexual needs and desires are very different from each other though it could pose problems for your relationship. If you are open and honest about your needs and feelings though you can find it to be something you can work out as a couple.
Both individuals should be looking forward to the sexual activity rather than one feeling pressured into participating. Sex can be a wonderful experience at any age. If you enjoy it and you are healthy enough for it, there is no reason why you can’t continue it into your 60’s and beyond. If you find you don’t enjoy it as much as you once did, there may be some things you can do about that. Talk to your doctor and you can come up with some solutions together.
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Women who are confident of themselves.
1. They work out to build muscle and strength, not to be thin.
Cardio is great yet quality preparing is an unquestionable requirement, particularly as you age. As right on time as in our 30s, we begin to lose bulk, up to 5 percent for each decade, on the off chance that we don't work to keep up and construct it. Actually, as indicated by after age 45 we lose 1 percent consistently. That can include.
Quality and resistance preparing to assemble muscle, not just counters that, it can offer you some assistance with staying solid and autonomous as you age so you can stay aware of your everyday exercises.
2. They stretch less.
Various studies have demonstrated that stretch, whether it's from work or family, can bring about maturing perhaps making you age 10 years quicker. All things considered, anxiety can bring about restless evenings (dark circles), skin lack of hydration and even male pattern baldness in great cases. So pause a minute and relax. Your brilliant years are to be delighted in.
3. They've relinquished laments and feelings of resentment.
full grown pondering
You can't proceed onward to the future when you're stuck glancing back at the past. Gain from your errors as opposed to replaying them in your mind. As the Zen adage says, "Let go or be dragged."
Consider contemplating. Attempt early today reflection routine and begin you're the morning with some espresso and a little care to offer you some assistance with living in the moment.
4. They discover some new information consistently.
Yes, you can teach an old dog new tricks. Stay inquisitive. Have a go at something else. These things break you out of your tedious routine and can offer you some assistance with getting out of a groove. Besides, discovering some new information can make you confident. One study demonstrated that more older women who took up another exercise or interest for three months indicated extensive upgrades in memory contrasted and the individuals who just occupied with well-known routine.
5. They don't try too hard with the cosmetics.
We're just for sprucing up and putting on a touch of cosmetics. Be that as it may, don't be enticed to try too hard. The key is to improve what you have as opposed to heaping on layers of the establishment to conceal what you don't care for.
An excess of cosmetics will wind up looking cover like and unnatural, sapping your characteristic sparkle and in the end settling into wrinkles and making us look even older.
6. They stay positive.
Inspirational state of mind
Griping about seniority won't make you any more youthful. Rather, picking positive considerations can bring various advantages including better-adapting aptitudes, a superior invulnerable framework and even a more extended life. Yes, it's hard to believe, but it's true. An investigation of almost 100,000 ladies more than 50 found that positive thinkers had a 14 percent lower danger of death in the study subsequent and were 30 percent less inclined to pass on from coronary illness than their negative associates. Another study found that even in individuals with coronary illness, the individuals who stayed positive were 58 percent more prone to survive an extra five years. Presently begin seeing that glass as half full.
I had a near-death experience three years ago. I did constant affirmation for healing and I also ate right and exercised. Last week when I went to a new doctor all the damage from that near death experience, had healed.
7. They get enough rest.
It might be harder to nod off, we may have a really had time sleeping. In any case, intend to rest a need at any rate. considers rest one of the essentials of maturing smoothly. "Try not to think little of the force of mull over your skin, hair, vitality, parity, and temperament," she tells Parade, including that eight hours and no less, ought to be the objective. "Ensure your room is not a spot for work or TV a half hour before you ought to be snoozing, and that it is very much ventilated. Around evening time, it must be dull and calm. Putting resources into a decent sleeping pad and pads likewise matters. The French normal nine hours of rest a night - and that makes me grin." Oui.
8. They eat and toast their wellbeing.
The thought that for getting healthy, the kind of food you eat is everything is certainly genuine, particularly as you age. Not long ago Huff/Post50 talked with dermatologist Patricia Farris to realize what transforms we have to bring with our weight control plans as we age. Farris focused on the significance of getting vitamins from nourishments we eat as opposed to simply supplements. She said it's never past the point where it is possible to amplify your eating routine with advancing nourishments to avert further maturing. Ensure you're eating a rainbow of nourishments, rich particularly in Vitamins A, C, E, D and K.
9. They embrace their evolving looks.
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Sunday, October 25, 2015
Becoming Gandalf
In the classic books, The Lord of the Rings, Gandalf was the wise old wizard that guided the heroic party through to success. While we don’t have real Gandalf's in our lives, you may be able to remember when you were young that wise elder statesman that you looked up to and revered because they were a source of wisdom and caring when you as a young person seemed to be continuously confused and afraid about what was happening to you in life.
As you enter your senior citizen years, it’s a good time to reflect on how that elder in your young life served such a valuable function of helping and guiding you. Perhaps your reason for being in the place of the elder statesman in your family’s life that you too become revered and that you can serve them with wisdom, compassion, and love. So the question might be, how do you fill that role and “become revered” the way the wise old Gandalf was?
You don’t have the magic that Gandalf had to help his young charges through their struggles. Perhaps the first step of becoming the wise revered elder of your family is to see yourself in that role. By creating a vision of a wise elder, perhaps using the model of who that person was in your youth, you give yourself a role in growing into. Picture situations in which you were able to be there for your family and they would turn to wise old Grandpa or Grandma and get just the right advice for the hour.
One such situation might be at Christmas. Late Christmas Eve, your grandchildren can climb up in your lap to take comfort from you being there for them. It is this kind of sweet moment where they should be able to ask Grandpa or Grandma anything that troubles them. You will want to bring the maximum amount of patience and love to that sweet time with your grandchild so he or she knows that Grandma or Grandpa is a font of endless patience and endless answers to their questions.
This is the way you become revered. The psychological results of just that short time with you can be powerful in a young life. Just knowing there is an elder in their lives who is always there, never too busy for them and with whom they can talk about anything and who will probably know the answer gives a child the confidence to face life with courage and calm. That is a wonderful gift you give to your grandchildren and its something only you can give them that is a gift even their mom and dad cannot provide.
As you fill that role, your children, and their spouses too will start to see you in the role of wise old Gandalf and someone they can always turn to. When you were in the role of parent, they may have looked to your parents for that role. But now that you are stepping into the senior role, you may get late night phone calls from adult children who just need a caring ear to listen and a soft loving voice, slightly deepened with age, to just assure them that they can handle the crisis and that they will be all right.
It will take courage for you to not panic and to fill that roll of comforter and adviser, but it’s a crucial role that only a grandparent can provide. But probably the most important thing you can do to become the one they turn to when they need Grandpa or Grandma is to always be there. This is harder than it seems.
A friend of mine tells of a call he got from a teenage granddaughter at three in the morning. She needed love, advice as well as emotional counseling. And as dearly as that senior citizen needed his sleep, he was there for that little girl and guided her through the crisis until she was sleeping peacefully in her bed. And why was that child able to weather a crisis in her young life? Because Grandpa was always there for her. And if you make sure that there is no situation that your kids or grandchildren cannot interrupt to come to you for help, advice or comfort, you will capture a revered place in their hearts that will be yours to keep forever.
Saturday, October 24, 2015
Can Grandpa Still Drive?
Some of the issues involving helping your senior citizen parent or grandparent can be difficult and full of tough decisions. Seniors face unique medical and lifestyle issues that call upon them and those that love them to find solutions that they can live with. And it’s very common for senior citizens to live in denial about the effects of their advancing years and to accept the changes in the way they live that must happen for them to continue live in a safe and healthy way.
Driving is just such an issue. For most adults, the ability to drive a car is an integral part of our sense of empowerment and freedom. We seldom think of what it would be like if we couldn’t just “jump in the car and go.” But that feeling of complete freedom to go where you want and when you want is such a deep part of how we all function that it seems inconceivable to any of us to lose that mobility and freedom.
But for senior citizens, there will come a time when they will need to give up driving. The causes are many but the most common reason that calls for senior citizens to stop driving is failing eyesight. While much can be done to preserve the eyesight of senior citizens, if their ability to see becomes a hazard behind the wheel, they will have to be told that its time to let that precious freedom go.
So how do we help our senior citizen loved one accept and then cooperate with a plan to reduce or eliminate their driving? You might be surprised that when it comes time for you as the child or caregiver of a senior citizen to talk to them about giving up driving, they may have already begun to think about it. Senior citizens are very aware of their physical condition. So while they may resist giving up the car or van, they may know deep down that this time would come. Some other compelling reasons to take that step sooner rather than later are…
. Doctor’s orders. If the senior citizen’s doctor specifically directs that Grandpa cannot drive. The senior will often respect that directive even more than family advice. A doctor’s credibility goes a long way on this issue.
. Their own safety. In the same way that no senior citizen wants to “fall and not get up”, the idea of being in an accident which may cause serious injury resulting in painful recovery and possible permanent reduced freedom and mobility is a compelling reason to turn the car keys over to someone else.
. The safety of others. It’s easy to find news stories of a senior citizen who continued to drive only to be involved in an accident that caused injury or death to others, maybe even children. That prospect is so horrifying to a Grandma or Grandpa that they may choose to ground themselves then ever face that kind of guilt.
. Savings. Getting rid of the car means no more upkeep, car payments, gas expense and auto insurance. Senior citizens are penny wise so that kind of savings can make a big difference.
If your senior citizen comes to understand that accommodations can be made to help them get out and about, the loss of that car may not be a big deal. Public transportation or buses that community services centers send out to retirement villages can help senior citizens get out to the grocery store and to doctor’s appointments. And if their family pitches in to help drive Grandma or Grandpa around, not only do they lose the expense and liability of driving, they get more family time too. And that is a great incentive to give up driving and let others serve as their chaufour
Following are some warning signs that indicate a person should begin to limit or stop driving.
- Almost crashing, with frequent "close calls"
- Finding dents and scrapes on the car, on fences, mailboxes, garage doors, curbs, etc.
- Getting lost, especially in familiar locations
- Having trouble seeing or following traffic signals, road signs, and pavement markings
- Responding more slowly to unexpected situations, or having trouble moving their foot from the gas to the brake pedal; confusing the two pedals
- Misjudging gaps in traffic at intersections and on highway entrance and exit ramps
- Experiencing road rage or causing other drivers to honk or complain
- Easily becoming distracted or having difficulty concentrating while driving
- Having a hard time turning around to check the rear view while backing up or changing lanes
- Receiving multiple traffic tickets or "warnings" from law enforcement officers
If you notice one or more of these cautionary signs in yourself, or in a loved one who is driving, you might want to register yourself or that person for a driver-improvement course, such as the classroom or online courses offered by AARP Driver Safety.
You may also want information about speaking to friends and loved ones about their driving. The "We Need to Talk" program, developed byThe Hartford and the MIT AgeLab helps drivers and their loved ones to recognize warning signs. It also helps families initiate productive and caring conversations with older adults about driving safety.
It's also a good idea to talk to a doctor about concentration or memory problems, or other physical symptoms that can lessen driving ability.
It's also a good idea to talk to a doctor about concentration or memory problems, or other physical symptoms that can lessen driving ability.
Sunday, October 18, 2015
SEX AND SENIORS OVER 70
Horny old broads, dirty old men. These commonly used terms speak volumes about how society views older people who are interested in sex.
Experts say such derogatory labels reflect a deep level of discomfort in our youth-oriented culture with the idea that seniors are sexually active. Sex is identified with reproduction, youthful attractiveness, and power -- and most young and even middle-aged people do not want to confront the inevitability of growing old.
So sexual intimacy among older Americans is a subject that people don't talk about much. The silence, says experts, allows misconceptions to flourish -- including the widespread assumption that seniors lose interest in sex and are, or should be, asexual.
But armed with a spate of studies that help dispel the myth that older people don't have sex or enjoy it, experts say the negative stereotypes couldn't be farther from the truth.
"There is no age limit on sexuality and sexual activity," reports Stephanie A. Sanders, Ph.D., associate director of the sexual research group The Kinsey Institute. While the frequency or ability to perform sexually will generally decline modestly as seniors experience the normal physiological changes that accompany aging, reports show that the majority of men and women between the ages of 50 and 80 are still enthusiastic about sex and intimacy.
"Use it or lose it," says geriatrics expert Walter M. Bortz, 70, author of three books on healthy aging as well as several studies on seniors' sexuality. Dr. Bortz, a professor at Stanford Medical School, is past president of the American Geriatrics Society and former co-chair of the American Medical Association's Task Force on Aging.
"If you stay interested, stay healthy, stay off medications, and have a good mate, then you can have good sex all the way to the end of life," he says. A Duke University study shows that some 20 percent of people over 65 have sex lives that are better than ever before, he adds.
And although not everyone wants or needs an active sex life, many people continue to be sexual all their lives. "There's strong data all over: It's a matter of survival," says Dr. Bortz. "People that have sex live longer. Married people live longer. People need people. The more intimate the connection, the more powerful the effects."
But older people may encounter an obstacle they hadn't expected: their adult children, who may be less than pleased to see their aging parents as sexual beings. Such judgmental attitudes prevent many older people from moving in with each other or even having their partner over, according to Dr. Jack Parlow, a retired clinical psychologist in Toronto. "This attitude creates a block to many seniors who want to be sexually active," he says.
The topic may well lose some of its taboo status, however, as the baby boom generation enters its later years. With their increased numbers and a marked increase in life expectancy, older adults are now the fastest-growing segment of the US population. In 2000, one out of ten Americans was 65 years or older, according to the US Census Bureau. By the year 2030, it is estimated that one in every five Americans will be 65 or over.
'I expect to make love as long as I can'
Louise Wellborn of Atlanta, Georgia, 73, believes deeply in the benefits of good sex -- at any age. "Sex keeps you active and alive," says the former businesswoman. "I think it's as healthy as can be, in fact, I know it. That's what kept my husband alive for so long when he was sick. We had excellent sex, and any kind, at any time of day we wanted."
After grieving for several years over her husband's death from Alzheimer's in 1997, Wellborn began a new relationship with a man in his 80s. They occasionally have sex, but mostly they enjoy each other's company, she says. "He wants so badly to have an erection, but it's hard for him," she says. "It might be the heart medication he's taking that causes the problem because he's a very virile man. So we just have sex in a different way -- I don't mind at all -- and we're also very affectionate. He says it's so nice to wake up next to me."
Her mastectomy two years ago after contracting breast cancer hasn't changed her self-image as a sexual being, primarily because Wellborn has had a lifelong positive attitude towards sexuality.
Her experience bolsters experts' contention that patterns of sexuality are set earlier in life. They also note that the biological changes associated with aging are less pronounced and sexuality is less affected if sexual activity is constant throughout life.
Wellborn and her husband were deeply in love, she says. After the children left home and her husband retired, the couple had more freedom to express their sexuality. She says that she and her husband had sex three to four times a week when the children lived at home; once they were alone they made love almost every day.
"I expect to make love as long as I can," she says. "I see no reason not to, and I see all kinds of reason why I should. If you've had a good loving man and a good sexual life, you'll miss it terribly if you stop. I've had everything from a cancer operation to shingles, and I'm still sexually active."
Sex is different but not diminished
Wellborn's openness about sex -- and the frequency with which she has enjoyed it -- may be somewhat unusual, but her perspective is not. One advantage of growing older is that personal relationships can take on increased importance as children and careers take a backseat. Seniors can devote more time and energy to improving their love lives. And while some seniors may be forced to give up strenuous sports, sex is a physical pleasure many older people readily enjoy.
A clear majority of men and women age 45 and up say a satisfying sexual relationship is important to the quality of life, according to a survey by the AARP (the organization formerly known as the American Association of Retired Persons). Among 45- to 59-year-olds with sexual partners, some 56 percent said they had sexual intercourse once a week or more. Among 60- to 70-year-olds with partners, 46 percent of men and 38 percent of women have sex at least once a week, as did 34 percent of those 70 or older.
Similar findings emerged in a survey conducted by the National Council on the Aging (NCOA). The study found that nearly half of all Americans age 60 or over have sex at least once a month and that nearly half also wanted to have sex more frequently. Another finding: people find their mates more physically attractive over time.
As for making love, it just gets better with age, according to Cornelia Spindel, 75, who married her husband Gerald when she was 72. They met when Gerry Spindel took his wife, who was dying of Alzheimer's, to a kosher nutrition program where Cornelia, a widow, worked as a volunteer. The two gradually became close friends, and after his wife's death became intimate. When Gerald proposed, she accepted with pleasure. Now, Cornelia says, "We feel like young lovers or newlyweds. I felt like I was able to make love better when I was 30 than when I was 20, and now I have a whole lifetime of experience."
Her 75-year-old husband agrees and dislikes the patronizing attitude many people display toward older people who are intimate. "Whenever people ask us how long we've been married, we say 'two years,' and they say, 'Oh, that's so cute.' We're 'cute?!' What does that mean?"
Cornelia Spindel agrees. "I don't know anything about being cute. Our love life is very warm. And very satisfying."
New treatments for sexual problems
Both men and women can expect normal physiological changes as they age that may affect the way they experience sex. Experts say these changes are not usually a barrier to enjoying a healthy sex life, but couples may have to take more time for arousal.
Postmenopausal women, for example, have lower levels of the hormone estrogen, which in turn decreases vaginal lubrication and elasticity. In many cases, dryness can be relieved by something as simple as using a water-based lubricant like KY Jelly. Doctors can offer other remedies for more difficult cases.
Men may suffer from impotence or have more difficulty achieving and sustaining erections as their blood circulation slows and testosterone levels decrease. Impotence is also more prevalent in men who have a history of heart disease, hypertension, or diabetes. Now, however, sildenafil citrate (Viagra), vardenafil (Levitra), and tadalafil (Cialis) have aided some older men who weren't helped by other treatments. (Some experts, in fact, worry that these drugs may cause an upsurge in AIDS in people over 50, because they are not likely to take precautions; they urge older people who are dating to practice safe sex.)
Some studies also suggest that the supplement ginkgo Biloba, which increases circulation, can help treat impotence, but others show no such effect. Men should always check with their doctors before taking it. Among other things, ginkgo can interact with anticoagulants to cause a stroke. Despite these hopeful prognoses, studies show that only a fraction of the seniors who could be treated for sexual problems actually seek medical help. That's too bad, experts say because even serious medical conditions need not prevent elders from having a satisfying sex life. Seniors should see a physician if they've lost interest in sex or are having sexual difficulties. Some sedatives, most antidepressants, excessive alcohol, and some prescription drugs have side effects that interfere with sex; a doctor can help adjust medication or set guidelines on alcohol intake. Illnesses, disabilities, and surgeries can also affect sexuality, but in general, even disease need not interfere with sexual expression.
The partner gap
The physical changes that occur with age can give older people a chance to revitalize their lovemaking by focusing more on intimacy and closeness instead of sex alone. Often less preoccupied with performance, they can express their affection and closeness in other ways, such as cuddling, kissing, and stroking.
"Sex is being warm and caring; sex isn't just sex," says Christopher Rhoades,* 66, a San Francisco Bay Area college professor who's been married for 18 years. "It feels good to lay next to a naked woman's body."
As he grows older, Rhoades says he doesn't feel the "compulsion" to have sex as much as he did when he was younger. With a grown son still living at home, he says he makes love less often than he'd like but still enjoys it very much. "There's a great beauty in the freedom from necessity. Sex becomes more a matter of choice and is more interesting and intriguing for each partner," he says.
But among older women who are widowed, divorced, or single, finding a partner can be difficult. According to several reports, women make up the majority of the elderly without partners. The reasons: women live longer than men, and healthy older men tend to pair up with younger women. Older women are also judged by society as less attractive than their male counterparts, a double standard that women's groups have long decried.
This "partner gap" greatly inhibits women's social and sexual activity as they reach their senior years. In the AARP study, only 32 percent of women 70 or older have partners, compared with 59 percent of men in the same age group. In the NCOA study, older men are more likely than older women to be married and have sex, partners.
For men, "biology or hydraulics" is the biggest impediment to sex later in life, says Dr. Bortz. "For women, it's opportunity and availability."
Mia Pickering,* a 74-year-old San Diego author, knows this all too well. Widowed after two 20-year marriages, she finds herself single again. "A lively man with something to offer can find a woman 10 or 20 years below his own age, which leaves women in my age bracket generally out of the running," she says.
Missing male companionship, she has gone out on blind dates and actively sought out partners through dating services and personal ads -- an exercise, she says, in "futility and frustration."
Despite these challenges, Pickering, like many seniors, wants to have sex and intimacy in her life. "At this point I don't have a lot of loose lust flying around," she says. "My sex drive has diminished, but if I met a man that really attracted and interested me, it could be restarted."
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